To be used in conjunction with section 5.5a of the guide
Questions to explore intent behind and impact of behaviour
- This is what a controlling environment is (give examples), what does this look like for you?
- Ask yourself: Am I like this only with my partner?
- Do you behave this way to everyone – why/ why not – if no, what leads you to behave differently in those contexts?
- What is the difference when you respond to your partner in one way and to others in another way?
- How do you manage to control your environment in situations outside of the home?
- How do you manage your emotions when you are unable to control your environment outside of the home?
- What could you do differently to feel in control of your environment but without controlling your partner?
- What is your expectation of your partner to manage your environment?
- What is the intent behind your actions?
- What are the consequences for her if she gets it wrong? What about the children?
- What entitles you to discharge your dysregulation on your partner/children?
- What is that teaching your children (what do they see, hear, learn about how to manage dysregulation)?
- What would this be like for you, what would life be like for your partner?